A Simple Farm Wedding | Ashley and Scott

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Tell us your story! How did you meet? How was the proposal?

Our love story begins in the fall of 2009 at Rochester Institute of Technology (RIT). Scott and I were in a Biology class together. Unbeknownst to me, Scott was eyeing me from the back of the room for most of the quarter. On Halloween, Scott dressed as Max from Where the Wild Things Are. I think this is the first time I really recall noticing him (keep in mind there were 50+ students in that class), and I remember seeing him that day and cracking up because he was the only one in the entire class who dressed up. When we walked out of class, my friend and I were right behind him. She made a comment about how neat his costume was and he replied that his mom made it. I secretly took a photo of him as he walked away.

Little did I know, just a few months later, January 2010, we would both attend the same party. Scott’s friends knew he had a little crush on me and introduced us at the party. We ended up hanging out for most of the night. It turned out we had a few mutual friends, and we began hanging out often. I introduced Scott to RIT hockey and we attended every game together after that! Our friendship grew and we hung out more and more. The entire time I had no idea that Scott liked me as more than a friend. In fact, his friends sat across the rink from us at a hockey game and held up signs saying “Make Moves, Scott!” (which they also brought to our wedding!). I thought the sign was for one of the hockey players… Nope! They were telling Scott to make moves with me! I had NO idea. Well, the signs really encouraged The Tigers, because they played their way right to the Frozen Four. Scott, a bunch of our friends, and I slept outside of the RIT Field House, along with hundreds of students, waiting to purchase tickets to the Frozen Four, which would take place in Detroit. We got the tickets, and we made the trip to Michigan! The Tigers didn’t make it far, but we had an AMAZING time!! It’s an experience that Scott and I remember fondly.

Very few people probably know this, but it was right after that trip to Detroit that Scott asked me out, and I said no! 🙁 It would be ideal to say that it was love at first sight and that I just knew he was THE ONE. But truthfully, it just didn’t feel right – I saw Scott as an amazing friend, and I didn’t yet have romantic feelings for him. I’m sure Scott was pretty upset when I turned him down, but surprisingly, he remained my friend. He continued to spend time with me and our relationship grew. We truly became best friends!! And just like that, one morning I woke up and realized that I DID have romantic feelings for Scott! Since I had turned him down before, I think he was hesitant to ask me out again. So it took some help from a friend, who encouraged Scott to “make moves,” again. On May 27, 2010, he asked me out, and this time, I said yes!

Five years later, just one day shy of our fifth anniversary, Scott proposed to me on our annual anniversary vacation, which was a cruise to the Bahamas! I was surprised and beyond excited!

Although our love story might not be so traditional, I wouldn’t change a thing about it. I truly believe that everything happens for a reason, and I’m glad that we allowed our friendship to grow and strengthen before we became anything more. That friendship is the solid foundation that we’ve been able to grow our relationship and marriage on!

Tell us about your wedding day? (when, why, how many guests, etc.)

Our wedding took place on May 27, 2017, seven years after our first date. We had about 70 of our closest friends and family attend. The forecast showed scattered thunderstorms on the day of our wedding. As much as we didn’t want any rain, I quickly ordered rain boots, a clear umbrella, and thought through our Plan B, if we needed to move our ceremony indoors. We watched the radar all day, and luckily, not a single drop of rain fell! We were so relieved! The day turned out to be wonderful, and almost everything went as planned.

What three words would you use to describe your day?

Emotional, Exciting, Overwhelming

What drew you to Big Spring Farm (BSF)?

Once we laid eyes on this venue online, that was basically it, in my opinion. We scheduled a time to tour the property, and we just fell in love! It is a stunningly beautiful property, and we felt it embodied our style and the look we envisioned for our wedding. The location was ideal, as well. Our families live in New York and Connecticut, while we live in North Carolina. We felt that this was a good medium. Not too far from us, for planning purposes, and not as far for our family to travel.

What is your favorite memory from your wedding day?

The one memory that stands out is when, at the end of the ceremony, our friends held up signs that said “Make Moves Scott,” which is what they had done at one of the first hockey games we went to together before we were dating. It was unexpected but funny!

How did you personalize your wedding day at BSF to reflect your relationship and marriage?

We built all of our own centerpiece boxes and our own cornhole boards for guests to play during the reception. We also had some dachshund related decorations, since we were unable to have our two dogs with us for the wedding. We also got ice cream as our primary dessert instead of cake, because we’ve gone on a lot of ice cream dates together.

As a newlywed, what advice do you have for an engaged couple?

It’s important to communicate and be on the same page. Scott and I are fortunate that we tend to agree on most things, so making decisions together is usually pretty easy.

Scott and I are not very traditional. We had dated for 5 years prior to our engagement, and lived together for nearly that long, as well. When we got engaged, we had already graduated college together, moved states away from our families together, bought a house together, and care for two dogs together. I felt that we already had a pretty good sense of what married life was going to be like, but it’s important that no matter how long you’ve already been together and no matter what things you have yet to go through together, that you discuss those things. If you don’t live together yet, talk about what that’s going to be like and what your expectations are. Talk about your finances and whether you’ll have a shared bank account or keep your money separate. If you plan on having children, talk about that. How many do you each want? How soon do you want to have them? Do you want pets? Do you want to live in the suburbs or out in the country? Some people don’t think about these things until they’re happening, but it’s important to plan ahead. If you’re about to spend your entire life with someone, it’s important to know that you’re on the same page, that their goals and visions of the future are compatible with yours.


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