Little did I know, just a few months later, January 2010, we would both attend the same party. Scott’s friends knew he had a little crush on me and introduced us at the party. We ended up hanging out for most of the night. It turned out we had a few mutual friends, and we began hanging out often. I introduced Scott to RIT hockey and we attended every game together after that! Our friendship grew and we hung out more and more. The entire time I had no idea that Scott liked me as more than a friend. In fact, his friends sat across the rink from us at a hockey game and held up signs saying “Make Moves, Scott!” (which they also brought to our wedding!). I thought the sign was for one of the hockey players… Nope! They were telling Scott to make moves with me! I had NO idea. Well, the signs really encouraged The Tigers, because they played their way right to the Frozen Four. Scott, a bunch of our friends, and I slept outside of the RIT Field House, along with hundreds of students, waiting to purchase tickets to the Frozen Four, which would take place in Detroit. We got the tickets, and we made the trip to Michigan! The Tigers didn’t make it far, but we had an AMAZING time!! It’s an experience that Scott and I remember fondly.
Very few people probably know this, but it was right after that trip to Detroit that Scott asked me out, and I said no! 🙁 It would be ideal to say that it was love at first sight and that I just knew he was THE ONE. But truthfully, it just didn’t feel right – I saw Scott as an amazing friend, and I didn’t yet have romantic feelings for him. I’m sure Scott was pretty upset when I turned him down, but surprisingly, he remained my friend. He continued to spend time with me and our relationship grew. We truly became best friends!! And just like that, one morning I woke up and realized that I DID have romantic feelings for Scott! Since I had turned him down before, I think he was hesitant to ask me out again. So it took some help from a friend, who encouraged Scott to “make moves,” again. On May 27, 2010, he asked me out, and this time, I said yes!
Five years later, just one day shy of our fifth anniversary, Scott proposed to me on our annual anniversary vacation, which was a cruise to the Bahamas! I was surprised and beyond excited!
Although our love story might not be so traditional, I wouldn’t change a thing about it. I truly believe that everything happens for a reason, and I’m glad that we allowed our friendship to grow and strengthen before we became anything more. That friendship is the solid foundation that we’ve been able to grow our relationship and marriage on!
It’s important to communicate and be on the same page. Scott and I are fortunate that we tend to agree on most things, so making decisions together is usually pretty easy.
Scott and I are not very traditional. We had dated for 5 years prior to our engagement, and lived together for nearly that long, as well. When we got engaged, we had already graduated college together, moved states away from our families together, bought a house together, and care for two dogs together. I felt that we already had a pretty good sense of what married life was going to be like, but it’s important that no matter how long you’ve already been together and no matter what things you have yet to go through together, that you discuss those things. If you don’t live together yet, talk about what that’s going to be like and what your expectations are. Talk about your finances and whether you’ll have a shared bank account or keep your money separate. If you plan on having children, talk about that. How many do you each want? How soon do you want to have them? Do you want pets? Do you want to live in the suburbs or out in the country? Some people don’t think about these things until they’re happening, but it’s important to plan ahead. If you’re about to spend your entire life with someone, it’s important to know that you’re on the same page, that their goals and visions of the future are compatible with yours.